The Gospel lesson for this Sunday was the Great Command - Love God and love your neighbor as you love yourself. Part of being loving is being invitational. Another part of loving is providing a safe space.
Have you had a time when a church was not a safe space for you or someone you knew? How do you provide safe spaces for those around you, whether it be in a church or your home or even in how you interact with strangers? Please comment below.
“I Wasn't Sure if the Church Would be
a Safe Space”
Sermon, Year A, Proper 25, October 26,
2014
Plymouth United Church of Christ, Eau
Claire, WI
© Rev. David J. Huber
Focus Scripture: Dt 34:1-12 (Moses sees the Promised Land) and Matthew 22:34-46 (TheGreat Commandment)
Love God. Love your neighbor as
yourself. In that command is also a command to love yourself. Love
your neighbor and love God, but also love yourself. That’s
something we often miss when we talk about not being prideful, being
humble, make sure to put others before yourself, etc. But here is a
command that we are to love ourselves as well.
Maybe not be haughty and obnoxious
about it, but a command to love ourselves. It’s okay to do that.
It’s important to do so. Because then we can love others. If we
love ourselves then we can love others. And the starting point of
loving yourself is knowing that God loves us. Relying on that.
Relying on the truth that God loves us, no matter who we are or what
we’ve done. None of that matters to God. Anything that we might
think that makes us unlovable, does not matter to God. God loves us
anyway. Unconditionally. So embrace that love.
And then – spread that love to our
neighbors! Spread that love to our neighbor. Those you work with,
those you live by, those around this church in the neighborhood, in
Eau Claire, and the entire world. Spread that love to our neighbors.
Think of God’s love as a bag of
seeds. A bag that we are told to take and go sow. It is a bag of
seeds that never run out. Whenever you take a handful and sow it
around, it refills. There is always sufficient love. Think of them as
whatever kinds of seeds you like. Violets, marigolds, wheat, or some
other vegetable you really like. Perhaps turnips or parsnips. Or
acorns. Throwing seeds for trees. Whatever it is. We all have our own
kind of seeds, and our own way of doing this, and our own kind of
godly love to share with the world. It’s a bag of seeds that never
runs out, so there is no need to keep any in reserve. There is no
need to be afraid of running out. We can toss it around with reckless
generosity. There is always more love. The more you give away, the
more you have. That’s the paradox of God’s love, and what God’s
love is like.
We have here in this passage the
command to love God, love your neighbor, and love yourself. That’s
what we’re all about as the Church, as the carriers of Jesus’
message. We’re all about love and sharing it. So we should be
inviting people in to share in that love. To be part of it.
More than just inviting people, or
asking them to come here to buy stuff at a thrift sale or a pie and
ice cream social or holiday bazaar. Those are wonderful and good
things. They are a way to bring the community in, and especially for
us to work together in fellowship with one another. But we want to go
beyond inviting people to come in to just consume our product, to
invite them into our community and produce with us. To be part of our
fellowship. To be part of us and produce the fruits of God’s love,
the Spirit Fruits, beyond being consumers to sharers of what we have.
To come produce with us, adding their unique seeds of love and for us
all to become stronger because of it.
So I am pushing this invitation idea a
lot and the idea of hospitality in our talk of church growth and
vitality. A really important part of being a strong church is to be
invitational and to show hospitality.
So what does “being the church”
look like? It looks like loving our neighbor. It looks like helping
one another. Helping in our community. The radical message that we
hold here as Jesus’ people, the one that Jesus preached, is the
message that it’s not God’s intent that we have to be
self-sufficient by ourselves. Not God’s intent that we have to pull
ourselves up by our own bootstraps. Not God’s intent that we have
to be the self-made man or self-made woman or self-made however you
self identify. No, the message is that God’s intent is that we do
this in community. To do this with one another. We can’t do any of
those things alone. I think it is a fiction to think that we can be
self-sufficient, pull ourselves up by our bootstraps, or be
self-made. We always rely on other people. We do that in community.
We help each other to be sufficient. We
pull each up others’ bootstraps. We help one another make
ourselves.
What does “being the church” look
like? It looks like loving our neighbors. It looks like inviting the
community in, such as to our Halloween party to share in our
festivities. Or whatever else we are doing, such as helping with our
street ministry. Inviting people in to help us with that. Or inviting
your friends to come to Community Table and help us serve there in
November (the 22nd). That will expand our circle and
expose more people to us.
What does “being the church” look
like? It looks like loving our neighbors. Which looks like
hospitality. Yesterday (October 25) we opened our doors to the
Memorial GSA (Gender and Sexual Awareness group, including LGBTQ
teens and their allies and advisors). They had asked if they could
have a Halloween party here at Plymouth. I said, “Absolutely!” We
said a big “Yes!” to their request to use our space, and then
they extended an invitation to the North High School GSA and also to
ChiHi. We opened our doors to the community. Especially, we opened
our doors to those who aren’t served as well as the rest of the
community. So we opened our doors and some things happened. As I
talked with Jamie, the advisor from Memorial, she mentioned that when
the party had first come up in the group and told the kids they had
found a place for the party and said it was going to be at a church,
some of the kids weren’t so sure about that. Some weren’t sure
they wanted to have it at a church. Not because they worried about
church-state separation, but because they weren’t sure they could
trust a church because of past abuse they’d experienced or seen.
But they went ahead, and did it, and came and we had a wonderful time
and they trusted in it. After the meal, we got in a big circle and
introduced ourselves and shared some stories. In that sharing, the
president of the GSA said that he hoped everyone experienced a safe
space here at the church and in the group.
One of the teens, who was wearing a
cross-dressing crazy psychotic nurse costume, told the story that he
came here with his mom who drove him here. When they arrived, there
weren’t many cars here because other kids had been dropped off by
parents or came as a group. They had not been here before, so they
weren’t sure if they were in the right place. But they pulled in,
and as they drove up to the building, he said – and this is in
relation to that comment about being in a safe space – that they
weren’t sure if they were in the right place, but he saw the
rainbow flag that is in my office window and he thought that even if
they weren’t in the right space, he at least knew he was in a safe
space. If they have a rainbow flag in the window, this should be an
okay place for me to be. That he felt safe that he could come in and,
if not the right place, could ask directions and not have to worry.
That question, “I wasn’t sure if
the church would be a safe space,” no one should ever have to ask
that question or to say it. “I’m not sure if the church is a safe
space.” But for many, for too many, the church is not a safe space.
So we – Plymouth – provided a safe space with something as simple
as a rainbow flag in the window to say, “Yes, this is a safe space
for you.” A remarkable moment that touched my heart when he shared
that story.
We had a wonderful time, and Plymouth
provided a safe place for 35 or so teenagers who are gay,
transgender, questioning, not sure, and some who are their allies,
who were impressed and very grateful that a church opened its doors so
that they could have a party. And not just a party, but a Halloween
party, which not ever church would allow, either.
They left a note, which I made
photocopies of placed on the tables in the fellowship room. After
they left the party, I found a thank you note on the table from them.
“Thank you for allowing us to hold a party here. (heart). It’s
greatly appreciated, North GSA”.
I left copies of it because I thought
you all need to see and to know that opening our doors meant a lot to
the teenagers that were here, and to their advisors.
After the party, some of the teens
weren’t picked up right away. A number of musicians were in the
group sitting around, so we came into the sanctuary and they played
on the piano, and guitar, and sang. Great musicians. I made some good
contacts and have invited a couple of them to come sing in worship. A
few of the girls had beautiful voices, and one is a wonderful
songwriter.
So we have made some connections by
inviting people in.
We show our love for God in the way
that we love our neighbors. Through invitation, through hospitality,
by meeting their needs, by making a safe place, and by taking some
risks in generosity by opening our doors.
Taking risks in generosity. That’s
what “being the church” looks like.
And in the months and years to come, we
will become more and more that church.
Amen.